In keeping with the Brand New Year-Brand New You theme which is traditional at the beginning of the year, I’ve re-vamped and updated Andrea Sheehy Couples Counselling web site for 2012.

Although in many ways exciting and fun, the changes have also been challenging, time consuming and at times frustrating.

It might have been easier to leave the site as it was, not to bother or to walk away from it.

However I realise that to keep up with what is happening in the here and now, however uncomfortable, change is essential. So I stayed with it, and I’ve learnt lots!

This is true too of our relationships. It can often seem the more comfortable, the less risky or the least painful option is to not try or to walk away, but we lose so much when we choose this option. We deprive ourselves of the opportunity of learning and growth. This means we stay stuck, caught in the same old patterns, or we walk away and carry all the old patterns into a new relationship.

To update the way we think, feel or behave is challenging, It means stepping out of our comfort zone from time to time, it is also essential if we want a thriving, healthy and fulfilling relationship.